“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” 

~Maya Angelou

When you have the opportunity to show kindness, show it. Mindful kindness is compassionate, especially when you really don’t want to be, your relationships deepen your. Just a small kindness act will transform the moment, the whole day, or your whole life. And of coarse what it can do for another can be limitless.

Kindness sometimes has a connotation of meaning someone is naive or weak, that is not the case. Being kind often requires courage and strength. Kindness is an interpersonal skill.

Kindness Is Caring In Action

There are different ways to practice kindness. Being mindful when someone needs a helping hand, a kind word, a smile, opening a door, or helping carry a heavy load are all be acts of kindness. Celebrating someone you love, giving honest compliments, sending an email thanking someone, telling someone how s/he is special to you, helping an elderly neighbor with yard work or sharing homemade food, refusing to gossip, and donating old clothing and things you don’t need are all ideas about how to practice kindness. 

Open Your Heart To Kindness

Science has now shown that devoting resources to others, rather than having more and more for yourself, brings about lasting well-being. Kindness has been found by researcher to be the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage.

Kindness is a willingness to full-heartedly celebrate someone else’s successes. Kindness is to be openly happy for the other person.

Kindness is also about telling the truth in a gentle way when doing so is helpful to the other person. Receiving accurate feedback in a loving and caring way is an important part of a trusted relationship. The courage to give and receive truthful feedback is a key component of growth and flexible thinking.

Kindness Starts With Being Kind To Yourself

Ever notice how much better you treat others when you’ve taken care of yourself? In a pressure-filled environment it’s easy to work through lunch, work through dinner, and respond to emails at 11 pm. But the world often rights itself when we take a moment to breathe, assess what we need, and seek it.

Kindness includes being kind to yourself. Speak gently and kindly to yourself and take good care of yourself. Be kind to yourself when you misstep, which happens to everybody. Not taking care of ourselves may cause collateral damage, like making others the target of the anger or frustration or disappointment that we really feel about ourselves. Sleep, a relaxed meal, or exercise are all ways to be kind to ourselves.

Lead With Compassion, Follow With Kindness

Everyone has challenges, many hidden from sight. If you knew that your coworker delivering the curt response to a question or the snarky critique of a project had recently learned of a serious illness in their family, wouldn’t you cut them some slack? And better yet, might you then want to reach out with support? When we are compassionate, we are recognizing our shared human condition. Compassion can guide us to acts of kindness. Maybe we keep our mouth shut instead of calling out the misdemeanor. Or we find a private time to ask if everything is okay. Sometimes kindness is offering to get coffee, or bringing back a cookie from a lunchtime just because.

Choose Kindness Everyday

While we may not have control over another person, we do have control over ourselves. What does it mean to be our best selves? Being kind is in the mix of choices we have each and every day. We can’t make anyone else be kind, but we can make a conscious choice to be kind.

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” ~Aesop, the ancient Greek storyteller

The purest form of kindness may have no audience and offer no credit. Kindness to accumulate thanks is self-serving at best. Some may even say it’s an effort to control or make the recipient feel indebted. But when we are kind even if — maybe especially if — there’s no such payback, the rewards may be all the sweeter.

Kindness Gives Life To More Kindness

Just as a bully of a boss can foster a culture of bullying and fear down the hierarchical line, so can kindness. We often take our cues from leaders, coworkers, celebrities, and others we live with many hours a day. Why not be the kind person from whom others take their cues? The one who helps people turn to one another kindly in small and big ways that illustrate a spirit of generosity?

During this time of year, more than any other time, the next two months brings with it much pain and suffering. Often silent and unseen to most. Make a conscious effort to step outside of yourself and feel what’s going on for others around you. And perhaps a moment of just listening to someone vent, giving a sincere compliment or share some of your favorite dish with a neighbor, will change that darkness they may be feeling into the light.

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Sourced from:

Harvard Health Publishing |Melissa Brodrick, MEd

Psychology Today | Karyn Hall Ph.D.

HuffPost | Susan Smalley, Ph.D., Contributor

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Art and Science

Aromatherapy elicits positive responses, on both psychological and physiological levels. Specific psychological benefits attributed to pure essences and their aromas include relief from anxiety, depression, stress, and fatigue, while encouraging feelings of refreshing and awakening calmness, relaxation and happiness.1

Aromatherapy is thought of as both an art and a science. Recently, aromatherapy has gained more recognition in the fields of science and medicine.  Humans have used aromatherapy for thousands of years. Ancient cultures in China, India, Egypt, and elsewhere incorporated aromatic plant components in resins, balms, and oils. These natural substances were used for medical and religious purposes. They were known to have both physical and psychological benefits.

Smell plays a big role in how essential oils may affect the body: When breathed in, these plant oils stimulate smell receptors in the nose that send chemical messages through nerves to the brain’s limbic system, which affects Joy and emotions, and may have some physiological effects on the body, according to the National Institutes of Health (NIH). 7

Earth Tonics Joi Butters Features Essential oils

The skin is relatively permeable to fat soluble substances and relatively impermeable to water soluble substances. Essential oil molecules are so minute that when they are applied to the skin; they are able to pass through the strateum corneum (the outer layer of the epidermis). From here the oil molecule passes through dermis, into the capillaries and into the bloodstream. Absorption also occurs through the hair follicles and sweat ducts. 8

Butters can be rubbed into the skin, for Joy shift, protection of the skin and/or under arm for deodorant.  Joi Butters  offer a way to adjust or enhance one’s Joy with Aromatherapy, while caring for the skin with protective base oils and or neutralizing body odor.

Joi Butters Features                                                                       


Completely made from Nature

Undiluted, no chemicals, no preservatives

Alternative to perfume or cologne

Nourishing to skin

Joi Butters Benefits

Luxurious, Green Beauty product

Smooth texture, absorbs easily into skin

Unisex scents

Moisturizing and protective leaves skin feeling good

Indulges your senses and uplifts your spirit

Sweetly Grounded

Grounding and calming to your mind like sweet chocolate. This butter is uplifting to your spirit, it releases the tensions of the day.

Seductive Courage

Earthy, mysterious and seductive, this aphrodisiac butter renews your zest for life.

Spicy Intentions

Provocative, sensual and warm this butter brings calm feelings and a sense of peace.  This leaves you open to some spice in your life.

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I’ve been involved with hair for nearly 40 years and counting. In this time I’ve experienced many types, textures, density, curl patterns and characteristics of hair from a multitude of people of all ethnic backgrounds. I have developed some beliefs about how often you are shampooing relates to the condition of your hair.

With new clients I always begin with a chat; with me seated on the comfy couch and them seated on my stage relaxed into the oversized client chair.  One of the first questions I ask is – ‘How often do you shampoo your hair?”

Now this topic of shampooing and actually hair care in general– is an area where ethnicity does make a difference.

It is typical for White, Asian a few Latin or Black people to shampoo on a daily basis.  I’ve even encountered those that shampoo twice a day.  Often due to exercise or their work environment like working in a restaurant leaves your hair smelling like old food and grease.

Shampooing Less Can Be Better For Your Hair

Most Black people (women) don’t shampoo more than once in a week sometimes even up to once a month. Those wearing braids, dreads, a weave, or have a lot of hair requiring big time commitment to wash and styling fall into this category.  I know many think, yuck!  Actually it can be good for the hair and absolutely saves on time. Unless there is a scalp issue going on then not shampooing for an extended amount of time would not be beneficial.

Men (with short hair) in general are not affected because the hair is cut frequently.  Men with longer hair or growing longer would also benefit more less shampooing.

It is my belief and opinion that optimal shampooing schedule for most hair types should be done every 7-10 days.  New clients are always in shock with this, in the beginning.  After they hear my reasoning and the benefits they soften and agree to give it a go.

Our bodies are amazing in all that they do, create, organize and protect…truly amazing.  The oil (Sebum) that everyone hates and attempts to wash away is what our bodies produce to protect us, basically from ourselves.

We do a lot to our hair; expose it to harsh chemicals, hot tools, sun and our pollution.  For instance the new color fade of gray hair –this hair is basically fried, dried out and very porous.  It NEEDS the sebum.  And By The Way –sebum is an excellent protector and conditioner; it rivals any one on the shelves at the store. If utilized in the correct way.  The vital thing about sebum protecting and conditioning is that it must get off the scalp and onto the hair thru to the ends.  

Two great ways to move sebum from the scalp is with our hands/fingers or brushing.  There was a good reason women used to brush their hair everyday some 100 strokes. It moved the sebum throughout the hair shaft and left the hair shiny and healthy also this brushing stimulated the scalp, which increased growth rate of the hair.

Ease Into A New Shampooing Routine

My suggestion is to add a day to your present shampooing schedule, for two weeks or so.  Then add another day for the next two weeks, and so on until you reach somewhere between 7-10 days between shampooing.  Doing it gradually like this, lets your body adjust how much sebum it produces. You also should be using your fingers to move sebum thru to the ends daily. Before you shampoo give your hair a good brushing. Be patient –you have had this frequent shampooing schedule for a long time, it will take some time to adjust.  Ironically people will begin to tell you your hair looks great, when its pass a week dirty (after your body as made its adjustments to how much sebum is produces).

Now, as your washing schedule changes, so must your styling methods. Has the days go by and your hair gets oiler, move into braids, ponytails, buns or try to slick one side back.  Rotate how you style it. And these are not involved styles they will not take more time; they are just different than your norm. Come on, you can do it give it a try. If you don’t like your hair using the suggested schedule, create what works for you. Your hair will show you how happy it is when you utilized what your body makes for your protection.

Natural Products That Nurture Hair

I like clean natural shampoos, like Dr. Bronner’s Pure-Castile Liquid Soap or vinegar shampoo. Sometimes I use one of the above 1st wash, then depending on how many days it’s been since wash and if there is product built up in hair, I’ll shampoo a 2nd time using perhaps another shampoo.

After shampoo is the ideal time to use Earth Tonic’s Herbal Hair Tea to instantly infuse your hair with pure vitamins, minerals amino acids and emollients. Moisture Balance Herbal Hair Tea helps soothe, moisturize & protect dry hair.  It also adds body & thickens hair, promotes growth and slows or stops hair loss.  It is a excellent natural detangler while soothing the scalp and enriching lifeless hair. 

There is no need for any other conditioner! Using this method there is no residue left in the hair and it soft and nourished looking and feeling it’s natural best!

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Written by joi @ studio joi

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Hair Structure Basics

Understanding the structure of hair empowers you.

It gives you the advantage of knowing how to take care of your hair.  This means you can maintain it using the right ingredients and products in a way that benefit your hair so that you can achieve your best  hair.

Hair is composed of 5 elements:

Oxygen, Hydrogen, Nitrogen, Sulfur and Carbon.

Which form a tough protein called keratin formed by 18 amino acids.

Hair has trace minerals:

Cooper, Zinc, Manganese, Calcium, Iron and Lead

Hair is made up of two separate structures: the hair follicle, which exists below the skin, and the hair shaft, which is the hair that we see.

Hair Follicle

The hair follicle is the living part of the hair. It is the point from which the hair grows. A hair follicle anchors each hair into the skin.

The terminal part of the hair follicle within the skin is called a hair bulb.

  • The hair bulb is the structure formed by actively growing cells.
  • These cells produce the long, fine and cylindrically shaped hair fibers.
  • The hair bulb has special cells, which produce the pigment that gives hair its        color called melanin.
  • Androgens, which are receptors for the male hormones, are located on the cells of this structure.
  • The dermal papilla that feeds from the bloodstream provides nourishment to form new hair and is found at the base of the hair bulb.
  • The bulb is the stocking-like structure that surrounds the papilla and germinal matrix. It’s fed by the capillaries. The bulb is home to several types of stem cells that divide every 23 to 72 hours, faster than any other cells in the body. It also contains hormones that affect hair growth and structure during different stages of life, like puberty.

Adjacent to the hair follicles are glands. The most important one of these glands is the sebaceous gland, as it produces and secretes the natural oils called sebum which lubricate the hair.

Hair Shaft

The hair shaft—the hair that we can see—is actually dead. It’s made up of three layers of keratin, a hardening protein.

The innermost layer: This is called the medulla. Depending on the type of hair, the medulla isn’t always present, only seen in large and thick hairs.

The middle layer: This is called the cortex, which makes up the majority of the hair shaft. Both the medulla and the cortex contain pigmenting cells that are responsible for giving hair color.  The cortex provides the strength and texture of a hair fibre aswell as holding in moisture to help it feel strong and resilient.

The outermost layer: This is called the cuticle, which is formed by tightly packed scales in an overlapping structure that resemble roof shingles serves as protection to the hair. And the cuticle layer determines how shiny or dull the hair will look.

Considering the structure of the hair you can understand what is involved in how hair grows and what is necessary to nourish hair. With hair being made of amino acids and trace minerals it would make logical sense that adding substances with these elements would be beneficial to hair.

Earth Tonics Herbal Hair Tea is made solely of organic minerals, vitamins and emollients that are small molecular substances that can travel through to the hair follicle, the living area of the hair.

Herbal Hair Tea does not contain any polymers, preservatives or other ingredients that could diminish, hamper or block absorption of the vital nutrients. Herbal Hair Tea makes your hair it’s natural best!

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Multi-Vitamin Shot For Your Hair!

Earth Tonics Herbal Hair Tea

Herbal Hair Tea contain the ‘life force’ of the plants & the Sun; they are full of vitamins, minerals, proteins and emollients.  The hair easily absorbs the Hair Tea because they share many of the same elements.

Hair is composed of ­–Oxygen, Hydrogen, Nitrogen, Sulfur, Carbon creating

Amino Acids –Protien

Trace minerals –Cooper, Zinc, Manganese, Calcuim, Iron and Lead

Hair Tea is composed of


Amino acids, Manganese, Magnesium, Calcium, Silica, Iron, Cooper,


A, B1, B2, B12, C, K, E, Thiamin, Pyridoxine

Herbs are a effective way to boost hair growth, restore moisture and enhance its texture and shine naturally.  Because of their natural composition vitamins, minerals and moisture are able to penetrate the hair cuticle into the cortex with plant nutrients which are both gentle and nourishing for the hair and scalp.

Herbal Hair Tea instantly infuses your hair with essential goodness without chemicals or additives that could impede absorption and or cause build up that creates a host of negative side effects.

 You can use them for a variety of reasons: to moisturize and condition hair, restore luster and bounce, soothe scalp irritation, relieve dandruff, provide deep cleansing, or stimulate the scalp to boost hair growth.

The tea can be applied warm or cold, using applicator or spray bottle to dry or wet hair. Can be used to re –hydrate, or as protectant after washing, detangler.  Tea can be stored in frig up to 2 weeks in airtight container.  The tea is left in as final rinse leaving light fresh scent and soft, style hair as desired.

With Earth Tonics Herbal Hair Tea you know exactly what you are putting on your hair. Natures’ Medicine Kit –Hair conditioning can be ‘as simple as a cup of tea’.

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